This is the perfect example of a question men dread unnecessarily. We tend to put a lot more emphasis on the question than she means in most cases. Either fearing we will insult her by saying the wrong thing, or flatter her into thinking something looks good when it really doesn’t and suffering retribution for the lie later. What we tend to forget, however, is that these fears are often constructed from film and rumor rather than actual experience. In fact, in most cases, you can assume that a woman asking you this question is genuinely interested in your reply. However, we understand that even when compared to the task of finding the best adult dating website, finding the right way to answer can seem daunting at best. So stick to your context cues before you come up with an answer and you can beat this ball buster. You can get some pointers from the adult dating sites. Learn more about the results of our website test and find out which site is the best.
When She’s Shopping and You’re Along for the Ride
Here’s the thing about women and shopping: this is usually something fun to them. They are more interested in trying everything on than actually buying it. In this case, it is completely okay to say whether or not you like something on them, because either you will be paying for it and really want to keep the price in check, or she wants to know it’s a good buy before she ends up paying for it. In both cases the matter of money is usually a pretty important one, so getting rid of the things that really don’t work before you get to the cash register is important. Consider it your goal to remove at least half of what she picks up by the time you leave the fitting rooms.
That doesn’t, of course, mean this is going to be as easy as browsing profiles on EroticAds.com. The main reason most men avoid this scenario like the plague is that they never know what, specifically to say. Many of us really don’t care what she’s wearing, or are afraid to give bad advice because we aren’t aware of and don’t care about the current trends. The key here is to just state your opinion, but wrap it in compliments. For example, if she’s already tried something on and the thing she’s currently wearing just isn’t doing her justice, just tell her you don’t like this one as much as the previous one. Be sure to phrase it along the lines of choosing one over the other, since this makes it more likely she will set the current outfit aside and move on. Another thing you can try is to focus on the part of the outfit you don’t like. Whatever is pulling your attention is what needs the commentary and the more specific you can be, the more she’s going to appreciate your input.
Most importantly, try to stay away from the generic comments, especially negative ones. Never, ever volunteer anything about her weight or how any outfit emphasizes it. Call the clothing too tight or say the cut doesn’t look right on her, or that the shape is not complimentary. Never say something makes her look fat. Tell her when you don’t like a color in general or just don’t like it on her. Be honest if you just aren’t sure, but suggest she try the top or the bottom with something else instead to help your decision. If all else fails, at least add something along the lines of how she always looks good to you, so it’s hard for you to tell the difference. At least then she feels flattered by your inability to give helpful input.
When She Asks if Something Makes Her Look Fat
If about a million alarm bells just went off in your mind, you aren’t alone. Even the best adult dating website in the world won’t keep you from ending up in this situation, however, so take a deep breath and consider the situation. The most important thing to keep in mind is whether the item is something she already bought, or something she’s thinking of buying. For the latter, you can confirm without insulting. We promise that’s possible. It’s just a matter of phrasing. Instead of straight up confirming, try something along the lines of it not flattering her shape or suggesting a previous outfit that you thought worked better. Crisis avoided and no harm done.
In the case where she’s asking you about something she already owns, however, things get trickier. Keep in mind that she is mainly asking you this because “fat” is a very negative word in a woman’s vocabulary and may be used to imply something just generally doesn’t look good on them. Even if the outfit doesn’t make her look fat, it can still be less than flattering and so answering with a negative at this point is still not the best way to go. What she really wants to know is if wearing the outfit is going to make her look good in general, so address that question instead. Tell her it’s not showing off her figure and try suggesting something else. If the dress is unflattering to her legs, try pants instead. If the outfit is hiding her shape, try a belt or a fitted jacket: anything that can draw the eye in directly. The key is to keep from giving a straight answer. Confirm and she will think that’s how you see her, regardless, deny all the time and she will write off any input you ever have because she now sees you as unreliable or spineless.
When She’s Surprised You with Something
Did you just walk into the bedroom and find a pleasant surprise? Great! Don’t mess this up. We don’t care if she is wearing lingerie three times too big, or something that looks like it came straight from the best adult dating website profiles. She always looks good. At least in the moment. In that moment, if she put something on for you and staged a surprise for you, be happy and always tell her she looks fabulous. You really don’t have a choice here, so don’t bother trying to come up with excuses. If you want her to stay, don’t make fun of or put down her choices in the bedroom. If it is really just god awful ugly, tell her she will look better with it off and get to the stripping. The best way to handle this situation when the answer is honestly negative, is get it off as quickly as possible.
Now, once the moment has passed and the two of you have had some fun, THEN you can consider bringing up how really unsexy that choice of apparel was. As always, however, watch your phrasing! Try to keep from laughing or making jokes unless she cracks one first, and focus instead on how happy you are that she tried at all. If you want her to stay positive and creative in the bedroom, you need to give her some support here. Tell her a fantasy of your own and how much better she might look in something else, just don’t tell her it really looked horrible.